When the breadwinner roles are reversed... The ultimate guide to Daddy Day Care.
By Frankie Gray www.harmonyathome.co.uk
By 2010 the length of parental leave may rise from 39 weeks to 52 weeks, and although the first 26 weeks must be taken by the mother, the father can take over from 26 weeks, caring for their children full time. Fathers with children up to the age of 6 currently have the power to request flexi time, the government plans to extend this to 16 years – meaning that 4.5 million fathers will have the right to spend time with their children.
It seems to be that the government’s aim is to put the father back firmly in the family picture with increased benefits and incentives, leaving many employers squirming at the idea of flexible working hours and increased leave. The stats state that when a family breaks up only 50% of fathers in the UK keep in touch with their children.
According to the last government stats there are 200,000 men staying at home full time to look after their children, 60% doing so voluntarily. We know from looking around that increasing number are joining their ranks. There are also an increasing number of men working part time in order to take on the role of the home carer.
A very good employer will use flexi time as an incentive to attract staff. I myself use this very policy! I find that although there may be small issues regarding timings, these can be resolved with good forward planning. The end result is a very positive working environment where both parties benefit.
The Benefits of Daddy Day Care:
· Dads are thought to let their children take more risks, which can be great for developing an understanding of the world.
· Dads generally take their children on more outdoor outings.
· Dad Things such as ‘Camping’, ‘Football’ and ‘building engines’ are more likely to take place.
· 21st century dads pushing prams promote a healthy advert to our youngsters about the changing face of our families today.
· Dads benefit too... from meeting new people, going to new places and bonding with their children.
· Dads report that it is very rewarding.
Making it work:
· Mothers do have instincts when it comes to childcare, so it is important that Mum & Dad have a handover period, and both sing off the same hymn sheet.
· Being prepared.... there are still quite a few places where a Dad may come unstuck. Changing facilities for example may be in female toilets in some establishments!
· Being aware that some people’s attitudes toward the 21st century Dad may be negative.
· Dads should be prepared for the adjustment of not being the breadwinner; it may feel hard or strange not to be contributing financially.
· Being home alone can be isolating. Be prepared!
· Make the most of the time you have, they will be the best times of your life.
Where to seek further information:
http://www.homedad.org/
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